You Do Not Need a Work Spouse

Colleagues at Architectural Office

Working closely every day with others can definitely have its pros and cons. There is a relatively new phrase out there – ‘work spouse’ that I find a bit disconcerting.   As a christian in the workplace, in the IT field particularly, I rather enjoy the fact that I work with a higher percentage of males than females.  However, I set for myself certain personal guidelines to ensure that my actions in the workplace are honouring both to God and to my husband.

  1. Always go for lunch or coffee in groups of 3 or more – although I would never tell a coworker that I can’t go to lunch with him unless a 3rd person comes along, I usually have a valid excuse not to go for lunch or coffee with that one other person.  Even though 99% of the time, I would trust the other person and no-one has any thoughts or intentions that are dishonourable, it is just better NOT to spend time with solely one other person.
  2. Keep personal life seperate – i do not talk about, especially complain about, my spouse or family life to another coworker.
  3. Keep in contact with your spouse at least once or twice during the day – a quick call, or in my case it’s usually a text message or two.  My husband is the one I should go to first – whether its with good news or bad.

1 Timothy 3:2 ESV

Therefore an overseer must be above reproach, the husband of one wife, [or the wife of one husband!] sober-minded, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, able to teach,

Psalm 85:10 ESV

Steadfast love and faithfulness meet; righteousness and peace kiss each other.


A Verse for When You Are Overwhelmed

I found this on Pinterest this week, probably just when I needed it. Although I had heard the verse before in NIV, the KJV uses the wording – when my heart is overwhelmed.
Psalm 61:1-3
61 Hear my cry, O God; attend unto my prayer.

2 From the end of the earth will I cry unto thee, when my heart is overwhelmed: lead me to the rock that is higher than I.

3 For thou hast been a shelter for me, and a strong tower from the enemy.

4 I will abide in thy tabernacle for ever: I will trust in the covert of thy wings.


when my heart is overwhelmed


As I come to the end of this week, this is the word I have landed on to describe my current state of being.  It’s not quite burnt out, and it’s not despair, it is simply depleted.

As we waited at Faith’s bus stop this morning, we pointed our faces to the sun and just closed our eyes.  ” We are getting filled up, just like ring-tailed lemurs’, she said.

Ring-tailed Lemur Sunbathing

I soaked up that sun and that vitamin D.  But I knew I also needed a soaking of the ultimate Son as well, the One who offers rest to all who are weary today.  On days like today when I go through the motions of my job, so I can go home and rest, reminding myself again that sorrow and sighing shall flee and I will have gladness and joy because I have the One who comforts me.